Too often, people – especially men – respond to someone suffering with efforts to fix or practically solve that person’s “problem.” Invariably, this tendency to attempt to fix the problem worsens it because the person with the problem experiences the “fixer” as non-empathic, burdened, or dismissive. On the other hand, simply listening to and attempting to understand someone who is suffering almost always helps that person feel better.

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Sexual fantasies can be understood as attempts by our unconscious minds to establish conditions of safety in which sexual excitement and arousal can be experienced. Guilt and shame are two important feelings that make sexual arousal impossible. Sexual fantasies, especially ones involving dominance and submission, can be understood as solutions to the problems that guilt and shame pose to sexual excitement.

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Loneliness has become so prevalent in our society that it should be deemed a public health problem on a par with infectious diseases. There is a mountain of evidence that loneliness and social isolation are increasing and are associated with a wide range of psychological and physical illnesses. The competitive individualism that riddles our culture is partially to blame.

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Why do people cry at happy endings?  The answer lies in the role that psychological safety plays in regulating our emotions.  The happy ending makes it safe enough to experience repressed sadness.

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