It’s important for individuals in a couple to understand the ways that they are different from each other. Each person has a special way that he or she prefers to be loved. For some, being helped with the tasks of everyday life feels like love. For others, being told in words about the ways that they’re loveable is the key to their heart. Problems arise when we convey love in the way we like to receive it, rather than in the way that our partner most needs to get it. A clinical example is discussed.